Anger is at it’s core, a human emotion. It’s nearly impossible to completely shut off an emotion, it’s part of what makes us human. We all know what anger is. It’s when someone cuts us off on the road, the coffee spilt on the lap, and it’s working on a project for weeks only to have it cancelled. It’s this strong distaste for something, it’s a response to feeling that we’ve been done wrong, and it’s a basic human instinct. Anger can be good in instances, as it’s a way of expressing ourselves and our emotions, and can help lead to solving problems.
However as we all know anger can get problematic, causing not only social hinderances but excessive amounts of anger can cause health issues as well. Increased blood pressure and other physical changes associated with anger cause you to be unable to think straight, and can harm your mental well being as well. Anger doesn’t dissipate just because you let it out, so what can we do about it?
First off, anger naturally inspires aggressive behaviors. We can’t physically attack out at every person or object that irritates or annoys us, it simply doesn’t fit in with societal norms set in place at work, in public, or even at home with others. It’s important to remain calm in whatever field you’re working in, as a fit of anger can cause your work to degrade to sub-par. For example in my field of web design, problems arise all over the place in web design, and it’s important to remain calm as to not let your work succumb to your anger. You can change the header of an article to stay centered but then it alters how far away the picture is from the sides and more problems pop up and you just want to throw something. This kind of problem remains true in many fields of work.
There are multiple ways to deal with the anger you feel whenever you need to subside it. It’s important to always remember to not let your anger get ahold of you. When that happens, someone’s bound to get hurt. Ways to help deal with the anger include humor, changing your environment, relaxing, and either solving or stepping away from a problem momentarily. With humor, you can diffuse a situation just by simply laughing at off (Have you ever tried to say “Bubbles” angrily?). Changing your environment is as simple as leaving the area you’re at that’s causing the source of the outrage. It could your office causing a problem, and you may just need some fresh air. Relaxing has a multitude of different exercises. The American Psychological Association (APA) has an entire brochure on anger management, listing a few relaxation exercises:
- Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won’t relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your “gut.”
- Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as “relax,” “take it easy.” Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply.
- Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination.
- Non-strenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer.
Overall, anger is a natural emotion that can’t just be ignored all the time and has to be let out every so often. It’s important to remember however that you can’t just storm around everywhere angry all the time, and managing your anger goes hand in hand with controlling it. You’re all professionals in some way or another, so it’s important to not lose respect! Make sure to try and keep your composure and you’ll make it farther in life than if you just let your anger hang out!